Our time in this planet is finite. We all know this in theory but for the majority of us we fail to take the action necessary to do what matters most to us. Mainly because we are not very clear as to what it is that matters most in our lives.
For example: If you are a parent chances are you think your kids are what matters most. If you aren’t you might think your job or career is what matters most. There are tons of things that can seem to matter most right now in our lives and yet we still waste plenty of time on distractions, endless addictions and default activities that make us feel a false sense of productivity.
It’s important to reflect on what matters most in our lives often. And even more important, it’s to reflect on the “why” it matters (more on that below the video).
Only then (within flexibility) we have found the components of our customized life guide. I like to call it Life recipe.
These are the things that matter most to me:
1. Relationships: Spending quality time with love ones and being open to new and deep connections with old friends and even estrangers.
2. Co-creating: Sharing my talents and skills for profit and/or for non-profit with as MANY people as possible.
3. Self-realization: Time alone
4. Education: Being a student forever
That list above is my “Life Recipe” It’s in order of importance. It helps me sort through decisions everyday and is an important reminder that keeps me focus.
What would your list look like? This video is an invitation to think about it regularly specially if you find yourself procrastinating…
I notice that when the intentions behind my priorities are connected to a higher and bigger purpose my growth is broader. I feel more joy and fulfillment. My doing flows easier. The circumstances align son that the quality I’m working on can be not only experienced but also given. And most importantly what I focus on in my life now will eventually affect everyone else (including me), because we are all intertwined.
Let’s look at the “why” behind what matters most to me:
1. Because by engaging in conscious relationships I can spot better the areas in my character that I need to work more on in order to be more loving, kind, humble, generous, patient, compassionate, etc
2. Because helping others is the best use of my time. When I help you I help myself. When I teach you I’m just listening to the medicine I need to hear. This fascinating cycle is a reminder of how there isn’t any new fear thoughts and how we are all one.
3. Being alone, helps me reflect, choose, create, meditate, contemplate, get to know me better and love myself. I can only love others to the proportion that I can love myself.
4. As a reminder that I don’t know much, that is always the beginning, to keep an open mind regardless of my physical age, to keep a flexible mind to stay humble, to practice listening.
When I converse with people about this, I notice that having to decide or prioritize on what’s important in their lives and therefore be active about it sometimes makes them feel an extra weigh of responsibility. And I would say to that is, if it feels like a weight on your shoulder it’s probably not a genuine priority for you, it might just be something you would like to matter more in your life, but it doesn’t (yet).
It’s never too late to reflect on this. We are always thinking there will be an opportunity soon when we’ll have enough time, enough desire, enough determination, enough preparation and enough money to go ahead and start that project, that book, that idea, that job, that company, that group, and so on. We shall start now, even if we fail our whole lives, let’s go on and make the best use of our time. Now! (exclamation for enthusiastic not for bootcamp instructor)
Have you already started are you thinking about what matters most for you regularly? Do you think about the “why”? I would love to hear your feedback. What we share can be medicine for someone else and for sure a step closer to a stronger vida!